I understand your pain. If you’re in this elite Fighter Cries Social club, then you have or are fighting to save or protect your children.

Here are a few simple ways to stay calm and overcome the anxiety that comes with the situation.

1. Breathe

Breathe and remember that you’re not alone. We are all here for you and many of us understand exactly what you are going through. Take slow deep breaths with a 2 to 1 inhale to exhale ratio. This will physically help your body disrupt the natural “fight or flight” response so you can stay calm. It works!

2. Visualize Your Happy Children

This technique works very when combined with slow deep breaths. Visualize yourself walking, smiling or laughing with your children on a calm day. Picture this, your children love you and they know you fought for them. Image the day you wake up after you’ve won, take a deep breath, and follow the next step.

3. Listen to Music

Crank up the volume and get motivated. No sad songs allowed. Let’s get motived with some jams. Play your favorite safe song that does not bring back bad memories, and move on to the next step because you’re almost there.

4. Write it Down

Write your story, make an update, or start a journal. It’s important that you write down how you feel because writing it down help release the negative thoughts locked up inside your head. Let them go by writing them down, even if you never share them, it may help you.

5. Forgive Yourself

No one is perfect, and everyone here is more concerned about what you are going to do next, not what you did in the past. It is also important to forgive yourself so that others may forgive you too. If you are constantly reliving your own mistakes in front of your children, they will be continually reminded of it too. Forgive yourself and let it go so everyone can move on in a positive direction.

Conclusion

Stay calm and carry on. No one does their best thinking when they’re angry or anxious because your body automatically engages in survival thinking.

Do yourself a favor and stay calm, and feel free to let a team member know if you need to chat, vent, or cry it out. We have volunteers that may be able to help you get through this difficult time.